Relationships are complicated

 

The human relationship has to be THE MOST complicated thing on earth. I know God designed us to be together and have relationships with each other, but sometimes I stop and wonder why it has to be so difficult. 

I know that the portion of our brain that controls emotions is not the same part of the brain that controls speech. Alas this is why we cannot explain our emotions very well. 

But I want to explain them because it does give me comfort to understand why it works the way it does.. but so many things like beauty, truth and the complexity of relationships are inexplicable. 

I had a very difficult phone discussion last night. Without getting into details too much, I felt confused, sad, upset, hurt, and even slightly angry after the conversation ended. 

I was trying to explain a miscommunication I had with this person and we each defended our actions and words that were misunderstood. A very simple miscommunication that turned into a very complex one. And the more we talked, the more complicated it became. 

I cannot control the way this person feels or reacts when I say something, but I can control what I say. However, this is a very uncomfortable feeling.. carefully selecting my words as I would the perfect ingredients to a sweet, delicious pie. How can I make this sound sweeter and easier to swallow?

I'm not intending to sugar coat anything, but I am carefully and delicately choosing my words to their sensitive ears. 

But all of this consideration leaves me exhausted and not wanting to communicate at all with this person at times. After so many misunderstandings, is there a point where you just resign? 

As a sensitive person I can speak to this..And I strive to consider the feelings of others to the point where it hurts only myself. 

Why can't we be real with each other even if it hurts?